Don’t you love this photo? When we were married nine years ago, it was on the front of our wedding announcement with the heading “Let the Adventure Begin”.
This couple looks like people I’d like to hang out with. Swap stories and share a laugh or two over a bottle of pretty good wine. To me, they look like perfect partners in crime and in life. Whether you are a duo on the Road to Zanzibar or the Road of Life, traveling with a partner can be tricky business. One of the things I love about my hubby is that we travel well together. I’m very grateful for that, but since we’re about to ramp up for our own Two For the Road adventures, I got to thinking about what makes a really good team. Basically, at least for me, it comes down to just a few very important traits.
Here’s what came out tops on my list ~
Everybody needs a Yes Man, a partner who says Hell Yes or Why Not to whatever crazy idea you come up with. Someone who is all in for a good time or an adventure and doesn’t sweat the details. When you say “Just shut up and get in the car.” That’s exactly what they do. They might even roll down the window and hang their head out to feel the breeze. Oh, wait. That’s the dog. He’s always ready to jump in the car.
Someone who is calm during your storm. Like the time a few years ago when Amtrak cancelled our train with no warning – just taped up a hand printed paper sign “No Train Today”. No train? Really? I’m on a five day vacation! I need the train TODAY! That’s when you need a partner who stands back calmly while you throw an earth-shattering-all out-but-still-lady-like-bitch fit after the Amtrak service person says, “Ok. So, do you want to cancel now or do you want to come back tomorrow?” and, then said partner calmly steps up, takes your arm, and says “Let’s go find a Happy Hour and come back in the morning”. Happy Hour? Ok. I love Happy Hour.
The guy in the rose colored glasses. On those days when you are less than your shining best – let’s just call it major-ass cranky-pants and your partner looks over and says “Have I told you today how crazy I am about you?” Whoa! Hello Dolly! Just the right words at the right time. Well, rightbackattcha Big Boy.
A comedian and a straight man. You know, like George and Gracie, Lucy and Ricky, Will and Grace. Every great comedy duo has an instigator, the comedian with the cockeyed point of view and the straight man who makes it all seem funny. They are a finely oiled machine. They play off each other. They give as good as they get. They make each other laugh.
And, finally, you’ve gotta be a switch hitter. A great partnership works when you can switch roles easily and as often as required. When you’re at the end of your rope – he’s just getting his strength. When he’s too pooped to participate, you slow your frantic pace and stop to smell the roses. It’s a balancing act and it works best when each person is tuned in to the other, to the moment, to the goal at hand and to the bigger picture.
And so, nine years later, I say – Let The Adventure Continue. We’re two for the road and I cannot wait to see where the road will lead us.
“If ever there is a tomorrow when we’re not together… there is something we must always remember. We are braver than we believe, stronger than we seem and smarter than we think. But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart… we’ll always be together.” Christopher Robin